Books
With over fifteen (15) years of authoring books and writing columns, you surely don't want to miss any of my works. So you better get to learn about them here.
BAD BOLD BRAZEN
When I first got hold of the book in its Filipino version "Babaeng Palaban" and reread it as an English book "Bad Bold Brazen", what struck me were the following questions, " Who is bad in the eyes of whom? What does it take to be brazen when those who dare deviate from acceptable norms are stigmatized?" Take it from Dr. Margarita Go-Singco Holmes, even those who claim to be emotionally secure in their relationships have experienced "to be or not to be" in a dichotomy of good and bad.
The issues of devirginization are related to convictions of what worth does my vagina have to me as a woman and who deserves to taste it for the first time with hope of passionate love stories that seem to never stop in our young imagination. Is it time to let go of it as an offering or do we have to resist because we are worth waiting for?
"LISTEN TO YOUR HEART AND LISTEN TO YOUR PUSSY," says Dr. Holmes. Well... "Bad, Bold and Brazen" equipped me with two kinds of listening skills for these two essential parts of my being.
(More issues on penis size and penis potential, health and safety concerns, being wet and discovering g-spots, masturbating and hairy armpits, and finally, bodymind rooted out: question of a nine year old sex toy)
WILD WICKED WONDERFUL
(Excerpts from the Preface of the book Wild Wicked Wonderful written by Dr. Holmes)
If you really want to know the truth, writing this preface damn near killed me. Not the entire book, mind you. Just this preface and the final chapter. That's because the rest of the book had written itself in the course of answering your letters for the now non-existent Manila Times. Well, perhaps "wrote itself" is not-so-slight exaggeration. Because of the personality of the letter writer and/or because of the particular question asked, some letters took more time, effort and research, and repeated consultation with an expert before they could be answered well. Some needed a more felicitous turn of phrase to soften the blow.
The only other part that was a killer was the Viagra chapter. But that was because one third of that had to be done practically from scratch, by begging people to write me of the concerns voiced by their closest friends and family.. All the Viagra letters I originally got ( and there were many ) focused on only three major points: (1) How do I get it? (2) How much does it cost (3) Will I die if I take it. Surely, I thought, there must be other issues worth exploring regarding this new wonder drug? There are. Many but not certainly all, you will read in the chapter entitled "Seeing Blue" on the side effects of Viagra.
From the start of the series, with Life Love and Lust in mid 1990 to this fourteenth book together in the late 1999, we have always tried to give a fair rendering of what was truly out there. We never wanted to make choices for you, but we wanted you to have all the facts, and to think through the implications of all your options so that when you finally did make your choice it was based not only on the cold hard facts we were able to supply, but also on wild, white heat of love and lust, of courage and commitment.
I hope the columns gave you the courage to follow your dreams, even if it gave others cause to all you a "wild wicked thing." Bottom line? I hope the column helped you see that e.e. cummings, with his " I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself," may be right after all, at least as far as you were concerned. I hoped reading them helped in some way, because writing them certainly helped me.
SEXY SAUCY SPICY
This book by Dr. Margarita Go-Singco Holmes is a compilation of BODYMIND columns in print by The Manila Times from May 11, 1991 to August 11, 1993. The first edition (with 280 pages) was published and exclusively distributed by Anvil Publishing, Inc. in 1993.
Read the book and take home the secret ingredients to a healthy sex life:
1. Take a gulp of about five calories from an average male's semen; it consists mainly of protein, citric acid, fructose, sodium and chloride. You may double the pleasure with a make-it-yourself flavoring. Try fruity twist or oriental spices. Try peanut butter with mango jam.
2. Lollipop licking is not a problem even to those who think their three-inch penis needs an enlarger. "Penis size becomes a problem only when its importance receives undue proportion." Think "Jumbo" and practice exploding like a volcano.
3. Virginity restoration is possible through an operation of building up the hymen. However a rocking riveting experience without penetration can be just as exciting. Take it from "S", who wrote: "Then he did something I will never ever forget. He made me sit on an old rocking chair. He put a big pillow under my butt to elevate my position, then with the chair rocking rhythmically to and fro, he ATE me. All these things happened to me one starry Valentine's night in the attic of his old abandoned house. When he ate me I felt an earth-shattering orgasm. Grabe ang SARAP - sobra! (It was incredible, super-delicious!!!) And he ate and ate and ate me till I couldn't come anymore." Still she insisted that a wet throbbing pussy with a pure heart and a sensible mind like hers is a rare find saying "I want to lose my cherry not just to someone who tickles my libido senselessly but to someone I won't regret losing it to. I want to share it with someone I fall in LOVE, and not just in LUST, with... Wisdom from a seventeen year-old virgin.
4. Avail of cat licking services by "applying a generous helping of anchovies or sardine oil on the female genitalia and on an obliging cat going to town on it" especially when the mate does not want to go down there. It might work. But for males, a full dosage of condensed milk and some hungry puppies should do the trick. Enjoy the little puppy tongues. "Heterosexual men who receive oral sex are happier with their sex lives and with their relationships in general." (Schwartz and Blumstein) Men love blowjobs but be careful of teething puppies. They bite a bit.
5. Visit the " SEXY SAUCY SPICY" menu for a virginity issue starters, how to catch a man stumblers, masturbating single-handedly, swallowing balls slurp, hung like horses sausages, penis pill wieners, discovering her g-spot and seeing stars, promiscuous as so-called slots, his perfumed penis shafted, shame shame shame seizeballs, neither fish nor fowl, steak, soul food, sinigang.
The naughtiest book... yummy and filling...
PASSION POWER PLEASURE: Straightforward Answers to Provocative Questions
This book is a compilation of Dr. Margarita Go-Singco Holmes BODYMIND columns, most of which were first published between July 27, 1990 and Feb. 11,1991 in the Manila Times. The only exceptions are "Is it love or just the sex?" in the Single Lifestyle Chapter (10) which was first published on July 11,1990 and "Response to Ruth" and "Dracula's revenge" in the Male Sexual Concerns Chapter (5) which were originally published on March 3, 1990. It was distributed in print by Anvil Publishing, Inc. in 1991.
Putting desires into perspective and defining values about women, men and intimacy are a few of the contemporary concerns of passion. The battle of the sexes is neither a debate on who wins or loses power nor does it reduce lust to immoral desires. It is about people with full responsibility to utilize the power of pleasure, passion of power, and the pleasure of power. In the worst scenarios of losing one's faith or belittling the self, it is exhilarating to read about the struggle of the powerful. They too have suffered. This book seeks to empower those who have been victimized by their own decisions and by people who have not treated them well.
Quick peak at some issues:
Concern No. 1: PREGNANCY. When partners are engaged in premarital sex but fear getting pregnant, they immediately think of different styles to avoid it. Some thought that urinating after intercourse works while others refer to cervical mucus that women sometimes confuse for other substances like mid-cycle secretions. Ovulation most likely occurs about 24 hours after the last day of this abundant, slippery discharge considering that a woman should assume that ovulation could occur anytime two days before and two days after her mucus peak.
Concern #2: IMPOTENCY. Consider Oligospermia (low sperm count) where 3 major treatments may improve condition: (1) fertility drugs (2) artificial insemination and (3) assisted reproductive technologies.
Concern # 3: UNRESOLVED CURIOUSITY. Read the book.
Roles we Play In The Family
The younger Margie talks about not fixing what ain't broken! From the inventory of essays on family life to generation gaps and parent-teenage gaps down to fatherhood and daughterhood, she captures the conditions and conflicts of family dynamics including "a woman scorned", mistress-martyr, lover-loser, in-laws, long distance spouses, substance abuse, pleasure and pain as well as survivors to celebrators. She did not deal with the issues by mere labeling but treated every situation with reference to the letter-senders' perception of their own families. She presents them with choices as alternative ways of understanding things and tries to discover where all the fancy-free, desire-driven and stress-bound emotions are rooted. There are narratives of the overly vigilant parent, mistress as a source of insecurity of the legal wife, and how painful it is for the hardworking father to be neglected by his sons. And when there are tears from a lonely daughter who thinks she needs to rescue her family, the sound of laughter can still be heard from every opportunity to love. In varying degrees of flashbacks and forgiveness, Dr. Holmes connects souls and stories merged into one.
"Another Book by Dr. Margarita Go Singco-Holmes. But this time it is not on sex. Roles We Play in Family Life reveals the "other side" of Dr. Margie Holmes as she responds to the many concerns of people today... As she discusses family issues, Dr. Holmes addresses a primary concern of the Filipino. Love for family is a basic Filipino value and the family is the Filipino's major commitment. It forms the core of one's identity and is the source of emotional and material support from birth to old age."
Patricia B. Licuanan, Ph.D.
"It has always been my contention that Dr. Margie Holmes is not fully appreciated by many for what she is --- a clinical psychologist well-grounded in the theoretical constructs of the science. Perhaps sex therapy, her chosen area of specialization, as well as the often frank and candid manner she treats a "taboo" topic, contribute to this. But an analysis of her writings reveals that she is far different from popular advice columnists who are quick to shell out pat solutions to complex problems that touch the very core of our lives and beings. Instead, Margie brings up different underlying dynamics of a situation and urges her clients to work through their issues in light of these, painful through the process may be. She does not allow them to persist in copying styles like denial, rationalization, projection, etc., if she perceives these to be unhealthy. Rather, she shows them how they can free themselves from such shackles and makes them assume responsibility for their growth.
Roles We Play in Family Life attest to how competently Margie can treat not only topics relating to sex but also those pertaining to parenting, relationships, roles, expectations, and the like. And, once again, she does so in such caring, warm manner --- which is another reason why she is such an effective therapist."
Lourdes K. Ledesma, Ph.D.
Clinical Neuropsychologist and Counseling Psychologist
---Book review credits to Gracielle Africa
OTHER BOOKS FOR YOUR READING PLEASURE:
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| Babaeng Palaban | Buhay Babae |
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| Buhay Mag-Asawa | Buhay Single |
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| Life , Love, Lust | Naiibang Pag-ibig |
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| Lalaking Barako | A Different Love |